Why did you create two sexes? Was this the only way you could figure for us to recreate? How should we deal with this incredible experience called sexuality?
Not with shame, that’s for sure. And not with guilt, and not with fear.
For shame is not virtue, and guilt is not goodness, and fear is not honor.
And not with lust, for lust is not passion; and not with abandon, for abandon is not freedom; and not with aggressiveness, for aggressiveness is not eager-ness.
And, obviously, not with ideas of control or power or domination, for these have nothing to do with Love.
But . . . may sex be used for purposes of simple personal gratification? The surprising answer is yes—be-cause “personal gratification” is just another word for Self Love.
Personal gratification has gotten a bad rap through the years, which is the main reason so much guilt is attached to sex.
You are told you are not to use for personal gratifi-cation something which is intensely personally gratify-ing! This obvious contradiction is apparent to you, but you don’t know where to go with the conclusion! So you decide that if you feel guilty about how good you feel during and after sex, that will at least make it all right.
It’s not unlike the famous singer you all know, whom I will not name here, who receives millions of dollars for singing her songs. Asked to comment on her incredible success and the riches it has brought her, she said, “I feel almost guilty because I love doing this so much.”
The implication is clear. If it’s something you love doing, you should not also be rewarded additionally with money. Most people earn money by doing some-thing they hate-or something that is at least hard work, not endless joy!
So the world’s message is: If you feel negatively about it, then you can enjoy it!
Guilt is often used by you in your attempt to feel bad about something you feel good about—and thus recon-cile yourself with God...who you think does not want you to feel good about anything!
You are especially not to feel good about joys of the body. And absolutely not about (as your grandmother used to whisper) “S-E-X . . .”
Well, the good news is it’s all right to love sex!
It’s also all right to love your Self!
In fact, it’s mandatory.
What does not serve you is to become addicted to sex (or anything else). But it is “okay” to fall in love with it!
Practice saying this ten times each day:
I LOVE SEX
Practice saying this ten times:
I LOVE MONEY
Now, you want a really tough one? Try saying this ten times:
I LOVE ME!
Here are some other things you are not supposed to love. Practice loving them:
POWER
GLORY
FAME
SUCCESS
WINNING
Want some more? Try these. You should really feel guilty if you love these:
THE ADULATION OF OTHERS
BEING BETTER
HAVING MORE
KNOWING HOW
KNOWING WHY
Had enough? Wait! Here’s the ultimate guilt. You should feel the ultimate guilt if you feel that you:
KNOW GOD
Isn’t this interesting? All through your life you have been made to feel guilty about
THE THINGS YOU WANT MOST.
Yet I tell you this: love, love, love the things you desire—for your love of them draws them to you.
These things are the stuff of life. When you love them, you love life! When you declare that you desire them, you announce that you choose all the good that life has to offer!
So choose sex—all the sex you can get! And choose power—all the power you can muster! And choose fame—all the fame you can attain! And choose suc-cess—all the success you can achieve! And choose winning—all the winning you can experience!
Yet do not choose sex instead of love, but as a celebration of it. And do not choose power over, but power with. And do not choose fame as an end in itself, but as a means to a larger end. And do not choose success at the expense of others, but as a tool with which to assist others. And do not choose winning at any cost, but winning that costs others nothing, and even brings them gain as well.
Go ahead and choose the adulation of others—but see all others as beings upon which you can shower adulation, and do it!
Go ahead and choose being better—but not better than others; rather, better than you were before.
Go ahead and choose having more, but only so that you have more to give.
And yes, choose “knowing how” and “knowing why”—so that you can share all knowledge with others.
And by all means choose to KNOW GOD. In fact, CHOOSE THIS FIRST, and all else will follow.
All of your life you have been taught that it is better to give than to receive. Yet you cannot give what you do not have.
This is why self-gratification is so important—and why it is so unfortunate that it has come to sound so ugly.
Obviously, self-gratification at the expense of others is not what we’re talking about here. This is not about ignoring the needs of others. Yet life should also not have to be about ignoring your own needs.
Give yourself abundant pleasure, and you will have abundant pleasure to give others.
The masters of Tantric sex know this. That’s why they encourage masturbation, which some of you actu-ally call a sin.
Masturbation? Oh, boy—You have really stretched the limit here. How can You bring up something like that—how can You even say it—in a message that’s supposed to be coming from God?
I see. You have a judgment about masturbation.
Well, I don’t, but a lot of readers might. And I thought You said we were producing this book for others to read.
We are.
Then why are You deliberately offending them?
I am not “deliberately offending” anyone. People are free to be “offended” or not, as they choose. Yet do you really think it is going to be possible for us to candidly and openly talk about human sexuality with-out someone choosing to be “offended”?
No, but there’s such a thing as going too far. I don’t think most people are ready to hear God talk about masturbation.
If this book is to be limited to what “most people” are ready to hear God talk about, it’s going to be a very small book. Most people are never ready to hear what God talks about when God is talking about it. They usually wait 2,000 years.
All right, go ahead. We’ve all gotten over our initial shock.
Good. I was merely using this life experience (in which you’ve all engaged, by the way, but of which no one wants to speak) to illustrate a larger point.
The larger point, restated: Give yourself abundant pleasure, and you will have abundant pleasure to give to others.
Teachers of what you call Tantric sex—which is a very high form of sexual expression, inciden-tally—know that if you come to sex with hunger for sex, your ability to pleasure your partner and to experience a prolonged and joyful union of souls and bod-ies—which is a very high reason to experience sexuality, by the way—is greatly diminished.
Tantric lovers, therefore, often self-pleasure before they pleasure each other. This is frequently done in the presence of each other, and usually with the encour-agement and help and loving guidance of each other. Then, when initial hungers have been satisfied, the deeper thirst of the two—the thirst for ecstasy through prolonged union—can be gloriously satisfied.
The mutual self-pleasuring is all part of the joyful-ness, the playfulness, the lovingness of sexuality fully expressed. It is one of several parts. The experience you call coitus, or intercourse, might come at the end of a 2-hour encounter of love. Or it might not. For most of you it is very nearly the only point of a 20-minute exercise. That is, 20 minutes if you’re lucky!
I had no idea this was going to turn into a sex manual.
It’s not. But it wouldn’t be so bad if it did. Most people have a lot to learn about sexuality, and its most wondrous, beneficial expression.
I was nevertheless still seeking to illustrate the larger point. The more pleasure you give yourself, the more pleasure you can give to another. Likewise, if you give yourself the pleasure of power, you have more power to share with others. The same is true of fame, wealth, glory, success, or anything else which makes you feel good.
And by the way, I think it’s time we looked at why a certain thing does make you “feel good.”
Okay—I give up. Why?
“Feeling good” is the soul’s way of shouting “This is who I am!”
Have you ever been in a classroom where the teacher was taking attendance-calling the roll—and when your name was called you had to say “here”?
Yes.
Well, “feeling good” is the soul’s way of saying “here!”
Now a lot of people are ridiculing this whole idea of “doing what feels good.” They say this is the road to hell. Yet I say it is the road to heaven!
Much depends, of course, on what you say “feels good.” In other words, what kinds of experiences feel good to you? Yet I tell you this—no kind of evolution ever took place through denial. If you are to evolve, it will not be because you’ve been able to successfully deny yourself the things that you know “feel good,” but because you’ve granted yourself these pleasures—and found something even greater. For how can you know that something is “greater” if you’ve never tasted the “lesser”?
Religion would have you take its word for it. That is why all religions ultimately fail.
Spirituality, on the other hand, will always succeed. Religion asks you to learn from the experience of others. Spirituality urges you to seek your own.
Religion cannot stand Spirituality. It cannot abide it. For Spirituality may bring you to a different conclusion than a particular religion—and this no known religion can tolerate.
Religion encourages you to explore the thoughts of others and accept them as your own. Spirituality invites you to toss away the thoughts of others and come up with your own.
“Feeling good” is your way of telling yourself that your last thought was truth, that your last word was wisdom, that your last action was love.
To notice how far you have progressed, to measure how highly you have evolved, simply look to see what makes you “feel good.”
Yet don’t seek to force your evolution—to evolve further, faster—by denying what feels good, or stepping away from it.
Self-denial is self-destruction.
Yet also know this—self-regulation is not self-denial. Regulating one’s behavior is an active choice to do or not do something based on one’s decision regarding who they are. If you declare that you are a person who respects the rights of others, a decision not to steal or rob from them, not to rape and plunder, is hardly “self-denial.” It is self-declaration. That is why it is said that the measure of how far one has evolved is what makes one feel good.
If acting irresponsibly, if behaving in a way which you know might damage others or cause hardship or pain, is what makes you “feel good,” then you have not evolved very far.
Awareness is the key here. And it is the task of the elders in your families and communities to create and spread this awareness among the young. It is likewise the job of God’s messengers to increase awareness among all peoples, so that they may understand that what is done to or for one is done to or for all—because we are all One.
When you come from “we are all One,” it is virtually impossible to find that hurting another “feels good.” So-called “irresponsible behavior” vanishes. It is within these parameters that evolving beings seek to experience life. It is within these parameters that I say grant yourself permis-sion to have all that life has to offer—and you will discover it has more to offer than you’ve ever imagined.
You are what you experience. You experience what you express. You express what you have to express. You have what you grant yourself.
I love this—but can we get back to the original question?
Yes. I created two sexes for the same reason I put the “yin” and “yang” in everything—in the whole uni-verse! They are part of the yin and the yang, this male and this female. They are the highest living expression of it in your world.
They are the yin and the yang... . in form. In one of many physical forms.
The yin and yang, the here and the there.... the this and the that... the up and the down, the hot and the cold, the big and the small, the fast and the slow—the matter and the anti-matter...
All of it is necessary for you to experience life as you know it.
How may we best express this thing called sexual energy?
Lovingly. Openly.
Playfully. Joyfully.
Outrageously. Passionately. Sacredly. Romantically.
Humorously. Spontaneously. Touchingly. Crea-tively. Unabashedly. Sensually.
And, of course, Frequently.
There are those who say that the only legitimate purpose of human sexuality is procreation.
Rubbish. Procreation is the happy aftereffect, not the logical forethought, of most human sexual experi-ence. The idea that sex is only to make babies is naive, and the corollary thought that sex should therefore stop when the last child is conceived is worse than naive. It violates human nature—and that is the nature I gave you.
Sexual expression is the inevitable result of an eter-nal process of attraction and rhythmic energy flow which fuels all of life.
I have built into all things an energy that transmits its signal throughout the universe. Every person, animal, plant, rock, tree—every physical thing—sends out en-ergy, like a radio transmitter.
You are sending off energy—emitting energy—right now, from the center of your being in all directions. This energy—which is you—moves outward in wave pat-terns. The energy leaves you, moves through walls, over mountains, past the moon, and into Forever. It never, ever stops.
Every thought you’ve ever had colors this energy. (When you think of someone, if that person is sensitive enough, he or she can feel it.) Every word you’ve ever spoken shapes it. Everything you’ve ever done affects it.
The vibration, the rate of speed, the wavelength, the frequency of your emanations shift and change con-stantly with your thoughts, moods, feelings, words, and actions.
You’ve heard the saying “sending off good vibes,” and it’s true. That’s very accurate!
Now, every other person is, naturally, doing the same thing. And so the ether—the “air” between you—is filled with energy; a Matrix of intertwining, interwoven personal “vibes” that form a tapestry more complex than you could ever imagine.
This weave is the combined energy field within which you live. It is powerful, and affects everything. Including you.
You then send out newly created “vibes,” impacted as you are by the incoming vibes to which you are being subjected, and these, in turn, add to and shift the Matrix—which in turn affects the energy field of every-body else, which impacts the vibes they send off, which impacts the Matrix—which impacts you . . . and so forth.
Now you may think this is all just fanciful illu-sion—but have you ever walked into a room where the “air was so thick you could cut it with a knife”?
Or have you ever heard of two scientists working on the same problem at the same time—on opposite sides of the globe—each working on the problem without the other’s knowledge, and each suddenly coming up with the same solution simultaneously—and independently?
These are common occurrences, and some of the more obvious manifestations of The Matrix.
The Matrix—the combined current energy field within any given parameter—is a powerful vibe. It can directly impact, affect, and create physical objects and events.
(“Wherever two or more are gathered in My name...”)
Your popular psychology has termed this energy Matrix the “Collective Consciousness.” It can, and does, affect everything on your planet: the prospects of war and the chances for peace; geophysical upheaval or a planet becalmed; widespread illness or worldwide wellness.
All is the result of consciousness.
So, too, the more specific events and conditions in your personal life.
That’s fascinating, but what does it have to do with sex?
Patience. I’m getting to that.
All the world is exchanging energy all the time.
Your energy is pushing out, touching everything else. Everything and everyone else is touching you. But now an interesting thing happens. At some point mid-way between you and everything else—those energies meet.
To make a more vivid description, let’s imagine two people in a room. They are on the far sides of the room from each other. We’ll call them Tom and Mary.
Now Tom’s personal energy is transmitting signals about Tom in a 360-degree circle out in the universe. Some of that energy wave hits Mary.
Mary, meanwhile, is emitting her own en-ergy—some of which hits Tom.
But these energies meet each other in a way you may not have thought of. They meet midway between Tom and Mary.
Here, the energies unite (remember now, these energies are physical phenomena; they can be meas-ured, felt) and combine to form a new energy unit we’ll call “Tomary.” It is the energy of Tom and Mary com-bined.
Tom and Mary could very well call this energy The Body Between Us—for it is just that: a body of energy to which both are connected, which both are feeding the continuing energies which flow to it, and which is sending energies back to its two “sponsors” along the thread, or cord, or pipeline that always exists within the Matrix. (Indeed, this “pipeline” is the Matrix.)
It is this experience of “Tomary” which is the truth of Tom and Mary. It is to this Holy Communion that both are drawn. For they feel, along the pipeline, the sublime joy of the Body Between, of the joined One, of the Blessed Union.
Tom and Mary, standing off at a distance, can feel—in a physical way—what is going on in the Matrix. Both are urgently drawn toward this experience. They want to move toward each other! At once!
Now their “training” sets in. The world has trained them to slow down, to mistrust the feeling, to guard against “hurt,” to hold back.
But the soul . . . wants to know “Tomary”—now!
If the two are lucky, they will be free enough to set aside their fears and trust that love is all there is.
They are irrevocably drawn now, these two, to the Body Between Them. TOMARY is already being expe-rienced metaphysically, and Tom and Mary will want to experience it physically. So they’ll move closer to-gether. Not to get to each other. It looks that way to the casual observer. But they are each trying to get to TOMARY. They are trying to reach that place of Divine Union which already exists between them. The place where they already know they are One—and what it is like to Be One.
So they move toward this “feeling” they are experi-encing, and, as they close the gap between them, as they “shorten the cord,” the energy they are both sending to TOMARY travels a shorter distance and is thus more intense.
They move closer still. The shorter the distance, the greater the intensity. They move closer still. Once more the intensity increases.
Now they stand just a few feet apart. The Body Between them is glowing hot. Vibrating with terrific speed. The “connection” to and from TOMARY is thicker, wider, brighter, burning with the transfer of incredible energy. The two are said to be “burning with desire.” They are!
They move closer still.
Now, they touch.
The sensation is almost unbearable. Exquisite. They feel, at the point of their touch, all the energy of TOMARY—all the compacted, intensely unified sub-stance of their Combined Being.
If you open yourself to your greatest sensitivity, you’ll be able to feel this subtle, sublime energy as a tingling when you touch—sometimes the “tingling” will run right through you—or as heat at the point of your touch—heat which you may also suddenly feel through-out your body—but concentrated deeply within your lower chakra, or energy center.
It will “burn” there especially intensely—and Tom and Mary will now be said to have the “hots” for each other!
Now the two embrace, and they close the gap even further, with Tom, Mary, and Tomary all filling nearly the same space. Tom and Mary can feel Tomary be-tween them—and they want to get even closer—to literally meld with Tomary. To become Tomary in physi-cal form.
I have created in the male and female bodies a way to do that. At this moment, Tom and Mary’s bodies are ready to do that. Tom’s body is now ready to literally enter Mary. Mary’s body is ready to literally receive Tom within her.
The tingling, the burning, is now beyond intense. It is... indescribable. The two physical bodies join. Tom, Mary, and Tomary become One. In the flesh.
Still the energies flow between them. Urgently. Passionately.
They heave. They move. They can’t get enough of each other, can’t get close enough together. They strive to get close. Close. CLOSER.
They explode—literally—and their entire physical bodies convulse. The vibration sends ripples to their fingertips. In the explosion of their oneness they have known the God and the Goddess, the Alpha and the Omega, the All and the Nothing—the Essence of life—the Experience of That Which Is.
There are physical chemistries as well. The two have become One—and a third entity often is created of the two, in physical form.
Thus, an outpicturing of TOMARY is created. Flesh of their flesh. Blood of their blood.
They have literally created life!
Have I not said that ye are Gods?
That is the most beautiful description of human sexuality I have ever heard.
You see beauty where you desire to see it. You see ugliness where you are afraid to see beauty.
It would amaze you to know how many people see what I’ve just said as ugly.
No, it wouldn’t. I’ve already seen how much fear, and ugliness, the world has placed around sex. But You do leave a lot of questions. -
I am here to answer them. But allow Me to go on with My narrative just a bit further before you start throwing them at Me.
Yes, please.
This ... dance that I’ve just described, this energy interaction I’ve explained, is occurring all the time—in and with everything.
Your energy—beamed from you like a Golden Light—is interacting constantly with everything and everyone else. The closer you are, the more intense the energy. The further away, the more subtle. Yet you are never totally disconnected from anything.
There is a point between You and every other person, place, or thing which exists. It is here that two energies meet, forming a third, much less dense, but no less real, energy unit.
Everyone and everything on the planet—and in the universe—is emitting energy in every direction. This energy mixes with all other energies, criss-crossing in patterns of complexity beyond the ability of your most powerful computers to analyze.
The criss-crossing, intermingling, intertwining ener-gies racing between everything that you can call physi-cal is what holds physicality together.
This is the Matrix, of which I have spoken. It is along this Matrix that you send signals to each other—mes-sages, meanings, healings, and other physical ef-fects—created sometimes by individuals but mostly by mass consciousness.
These innumerable energies are, as I have ex-plained, attracted to each other. This is called the Law of Attraction. In this Law, Like attracts Like.
Like Thoughts attract Like Thoughts along the Ma-trix—and when enough of these similar energies “clump together,” so to speak, their vibrations become heavier, they slow down—and some become Matter.
Thoughts do create physical form—and when many people are thinking the same thing, there is a very high likelihood their thoughts will form a Reality.
(That is why “We’ll pray for you” is such a powerful statement. There are enough testimonies to the effec-tiveness of unified prayer to fill a book.)
It is also true that un-prayerlike thoughts can create
“effects.” A worldwide consciousness of fear, for in-stance, or anger, or lack, or insufficiency, can create that experience—across the globe or within a given locale where those collective ideas are strongest.
The Earth nation you call the United States, for example, has long thought itself to be a nation “under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.” It is not a coincidence that this nation rose to become the most prosperous on Earth. It is also not surprising that this nation is gradually losing all that it has worked so hard to create—for this nation seems to have lost its vision.
The terms “under God, indivisible,” meant just that—they expressed the Universal Truth of Unity; Oneness: a Matrix very difficult to destroy. But the Matrix has been weakened. Religious freedom has become religious righteousness bordering on religious intolerance. Individual freedom has all but vanished as individual responsibility has disappeared.
The notion of individual responsibility has been distorted to mean “every man for himself.” This is the new philosophy that imagines itself to be harkening back to the Early American tradition of rugged individu-alism.
But the original sense of individual responsibility upon which the American vision and the American dream was based found its deepest meaning and its highest expression in the concept of Brotherly Love.
What made America great was not that every man struggled for his own survival, but that every man ac-cepted individual responsibility for the survival of all.
America was a nation that would not turn its back on the hungry, would never say no to the needy, would open its arms to the weary and the homeless, and would share its abundance with the world.
Yet as America became great, Americans became greedy. Not all, but many. And, as time went on, more and more.
As Americans saw how good it was possible to have it, they sought to have it even better. Yet there was only one way to have more and more and more. Someone else had to have less and less and less.
As greed replaced greatness in the American char-acter, there was less room for compassion for the least among the people. The less fortunate were told it was their “own damned fault” if they didn’t have more. After all, America was the Land of Opportunity, was it not? No one except the less fortunate found it possible to admit that America’s opportunity was limited, institu-tionally, to those already on the inside track. In general, these have not included many minorities, such as those of certain skin color or gender.
Americans became arrogant internationally as well. As millions starved across the globe, Americans threw away enough food each day to feed entire nations. America was generous with some, yes—but increasingly her foreign policy came to be an extension of her own vested interests. America helped others when it served America to do so. (That is, when it served America’s power structure, America’s richest elite, or the military ma-chine that protected those elite-and their collective assets.)
America’s founding ideal—Brotherly Love—had been eroded. Now, any talk of being “your brother’s keeper” is met with a new brand of Americanism—a sharp mind toward what it takes to hold on to one’s own, and a sharp word to any among the less fortunate who would dare ask for their fair share, for their griev-ances to be redressed.
Each person must take responsibility for herself or himself—that is undeniably true. But America—and your world—can truly work only when every person is willing to stand responsible for all of you as a Whole.
So Collective Consciousness produces collective results.
Exactly—and this has been demonstrated time and time again throughout all of your recorded history.
The Matrix draws itself into itself—exactly as your scientists describe the so-called Black Hole phenome-non. It pulls like-energy to like-energy, even drawing physical objects toward each other.
Those objects must then repel each other—move away—or they will merge forever—in effect, disappear-ing in their present form and taking on a new form.
All beings of consciousness intuitively know this, so all beings of consciousness move away from the Perma-nent Melding in order to maintain their relationship to all other beings. If they did not, they would meld into all other beings, and experience the Oneness Forever.
This is the state from which we have come.
Having moved away from this state, we are con-stantly re-attracted to it.
This ebb and flow, “to and fro” movement is the basic rhythm of the universe, and everything in it. This is sex—the Synergistic Energy Exchange.
You are constantly being attracted, compelled to-ward union with one another (and with all that is in the Matrix), then, at the Moment of Unity, being repelled by conscious choice away from that Unity. Your choice is to remain free of It, so that you can experience it. For once you become part of that Unity and remain there, you cannot know it as Unity, since you no longer know Separation.
Put another way: for God to know Itself as the All of It, God must know Itself as not the All of It.
In you—and in every other energy unit of the uni-verse—God knows Itself as the Parts of All—and thus gives Itself the possibility of knowing Itself as the All in All in Its Own Experience.
I can only experience what I am by experiencing what I am not. Yet I am what I am not—and so you see the Divine Dichotomy. Hence, the statement: I Am that I Am.
Now as I said, this natural ebb and flow, this natural rhythm of the universe, typifies all of life—including the very movements that create life in your reality.
Toward each other you are compelled, as if by some urgent force, only to pull away and separate, only to urgently push toward each other again, once more to separate, and again to hungrily, passionately, urgently seek total union.
Together-apart, together-apart, together-apart your bodies dance, in a movement so basic, so instinctual, that you have very little conscious awareness of delib-erate action. At some point you shift into automatic. No one needs to tell your bodies what to do. They simply do it—with the urgency of all of life.
This is life itself, expressing itself as life itself.
And this is life itself producing new life in the bosom of its own experience.
All of life works on such a rhythm; all of life IS the rhythm.
And so, all of life is imbued with the gentle rhythm of God—what you call the cycles of life.
Food grows in such cycles. Seasons come and go. Planets spin and circle. Suns explode and implode, and explode again. Universes breathe in and breathe out. All of it happens, all of it, in cycles, in rhythms, in vibrations matching the frequencies of God/God-dess—the All.
For God is the All, and the Goddess is everything, and there is nothing else that is; and all that ever was, is now, and ever shall be, is your world without end.
Amen.